Transforming Business Communication: The Real Meaning Behind "Yes, And"

If you've participated in an improv workshop or even just heard about one, you've likely encountered the mantra: "Yes, And." This phrase serves as a guiding principle. It's the golden rule, the secret handshake, and the sacred incantation of improvisation.

However, in the world of business, it's often misapplied.

In improv, "Yes, And" helps players build something together, one idea at a time. But if taken too literally in a business context, it can lead to fake agreement, half-baked plans, and a culture where people avoid confrontation. The "let's all get along until the whole thing blows up in our faces" school of internal comms.

It's Not About Saying Yes to Everything

In my book, TAKE IT EASY™, I discuss how "Yes, And" can sometimes lead to scenes full of agreement but zero momentum. Picture this: two people piling on details without any direction.

Does this sound familiar?

I once freelanced for a tech startup where "Yes, And" was fully onboarded. Every idea received a thumbs-up in Slack. Soon, features piled upon features with no coherent direction or prioritization.

People who wanted to disagree felt that they couldn't, and resentment simmered.

In meetings, this behavior looks like everyone agreeing with a weak idea out of fear of challenge. They mistakenly believe that being a team player means always saying yes.

A better frame would be: "Yes, I hear you... and here's what I'm thinking." This way, you foster real alignment instead of blind adherence.

Build, Don't Bloat

Here's a common scenario when "Yes, And" goes wrong:

Person 1: "I like your presentation style."

Person 2: "Thanks! I worked on it all weekend."

Person 1: "And your slides were colorful too!"

Person 2: "Yes, and I used our new brand fonts."

Person 1: "The data visualization was especially impressive."

It sounds positive, right? However, notice how the conversation remains surface-level, with each person merely tacking on another compliment or response. There’s no depth, no meaningful exchange, and no forward momentum. It remains pleasant but ultimately empty. Like eating popcorn for dinner.

Real Communication Requires Contrast

Disagreement is not disloyalty. In improv or in the office. Sometimes the best way to progress a scene – or a business strategy – is to challenge an idea. Use phrases like "No, because..." or "I don't see it that way..." Or simply ask a question so you can learn more of the "why".

I've worked in places before where the CEO's ideas were blindly followed. Nobody dared challenge him. It fostered obedience, even to good ideas, and a toxic culture. There was even a company value about "Being a great place to work". It wasn't but nobody dared say anything. Oh, the irony!

In another company, our CMO championed the "best idea wins" principle. It didn't matter who's idea it was, if it was the best, it was what we had to get onboard with. Sure there was healthy competition, and the metrics seemed to slide, but there was at least a solid sensible founding principle.

Agreement Isn't Enough—You Need Awareness

"Yes, And" only shines when rooted in active listening and emotional intelligence. Otherwise, it's just an embodiment of toxic positivity.

That's why we need to bring the spirit of yes and with us, not the literal usage of it.

Remember, "Yes, And" isn't just a catchy phrase; it's a mindset of openness, responsiveness, and shared authorship.

So, choose to connect. Choose to challenge. Choose to build, not just agree. Because, ultimately, the most effective conversations – like the best improv scenes – aren't about automatic consent. They focus on genuine engagement.

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